05 March 2014


18 May 2013


I have been plan for this since I don't remember when, when I am feeling so free and no need for worrying shits. Yeah. 
I am deciding to deactivated this blog "Be Your Princess" and take over my private blog. I just dont know why everything seems went wrong....just I did this with some reason which might be unacceptable or might be yes. 
Just wondering there is so many memories I have wrote about someone who doesnt even worth it like it should be. Being insecure as fuck and sadand waiting for something that impossible to reach and happen. Am I wrong am I right? Nobody cares. I just want to forget it all, all of that memories and feelings I have been built for 3 wasting years. So much its hurts me. You don't feel it. It's embarassing you know? Faking all day said to myself that you re real, when reality you're not. 
Thanks for the bittersweet and I have deciding this, no one is really need each other when there is another one better. Thanks for the flat and sour moment we just walking or you came into my life, it's perfectly magic to know you're exist for a while then now you're nobody. 
Goodbye blog! 
Thank you for being the best good listener for all my sorrows, shits and shouts for this long blog, you're the good one I had. And we will always be friends til we die. Amen

22 March 2013

Respect For Women

 Before Islam era, there were Jahilliyah eras that are known as age of ignorance. Before Prophet Muhammad pbuh sent to the world and before Islam began, where women were treated like an animal or less as personal slaves and have no rights. A son inherited his deceased father’s wives. They have no social status. Even they were looked upon as a source of shame and humiliation to the family. Also in that era women were infanticide, the atrocious practice of female infanticide has become the ultimate symbol of women’s oppression in pre-Islamic Arabia.
There is no doubt that Arabs committed infanticide before Islam. It was not a new thing nor was it limited to one group of tribes. Young girls were usually the victims of this dreadful practice, however, young boys may have also been killed once there were no more girls left. It was said proverbially, "The dispatch of daughters is a kindness" and "The burial of daughters is a noble deed." (Nicholson, p. 90) In Arabia, as among other primitive people, child-murder was carried out in such a way that no blood was shed, the infant was buried alive. Often the grave was ready by the side of the bed on which the daughter was born. (W. Robertson Smith, Kinship & Marriage in Early Arabia. London, Adam and Charles Black, 1903, p. 293) although the practice of infanticide had once been general, it had nearly died out by the time of the prophet, except among a few tribes, such as the Tamim.
Female infanticide was usually prompted by one of two reasons: fear of poverty or fear of disgrace. The first reason is associated with the frequent famines caused by lack of rain and the fear of poverty that would result from providing for girls who were viewed as less productive than boys. Fathers were afraid that they would have useless mouths to feed, since daughters were considered mere "ornament".
In the age of ignorance days, women were treated like slaves or property. Their personal consent concerning anything related to their well-being was considered unimportant and unnecessary to such an extent that they were never even treated as a party to a marriage contract.
Women were used for one purpose, and then discarded. They had no independence, could not own property and were not allowed to inherit. In times of war, women were treated as part of the loot. Simply put, their plight was unspeakable.
After the death of the father, the sons used to share his wives among themselves as they shared their father's property. After the death of the husband, the widow was kicked out of the house and was forced to live in a small hut, which was unventilated and dark, for one year. She was not permitted to leave the hut, nor was she allowed to take bath or change clothes. After one year, she was allowed to come out of the hut. People threw the camel dung into her lap and asked her to rub her body against the body of an animal. Then she was forced to go round the village in the same dirty attire, throwing the camel dung on her right and her left. This was the indication that she has completed her Iddat (waiting period).
In India, the Hindu woman was the most suppressed creature. She was born to serve her men folk?  Her father and brother before marriage, and husband and father-in-law and husband’s brothers after the marriage. She was forced to worship her husband. After the death of her husband she had no right to live and was forced to be burnt alive at the pyre of her husband. This inhuman custom was called the Sati. If she had no issue from her husband, she was forced to lie with her husband's brothers to get pregnant. This practice was called "Niyoga".
Outside Arabia, conditions for women were no better. In Egypt and all European countries in the Dark Ages, women were treated worse than slaves. They were not regarded as human beings but as sort of sub-species between humans and animals.

With the coming of Islam, the position of women was raised to respectable and honorable one in society. Islam came as the liberator and benefactor of women. Women in Islam are not to be regarded as personal slaves and not be inherited and not treated harshness anymore.
“I often think that women are freer in Islam than in Christianity. Women are more respected by Islam than by the faith which preaches monogamy”.
- Dr. Annie Bessant wrote in her book The Life and Teachings of Muhammad
Prophet Muhammadpbuh and Quran teaching us that women should be held in honor and their rights recognized I marriage, property and inheritance.
Quran said:
“---To men is allotted what they earn, and to women what they earn---” (4:32)
On the Quran also mentions that men and women are the same, have the same similar nature. All the article of faith, all beliefs and all acts of worship are equally applicable and binding on both men and women.
Islam respects women in all roles of their lives – as mother, sister, wife and daughter. But the most respectable and exalted is mother. Prophet Muhammadpbuh said that:
“Paradise lies beneath the feet of your mothers”
A woman is the base for man's existence since the development of the children take place within her arms; hence just as she has been created physically to handle the tasks of bearing, developing and educating the coming generations, psychologically too she is in possession of a greater share of feelings and sentiments.
Here we observe that Islam, even as it voices support for justice and equality, grants precedence to man in some of the social tasks which demand asperity or meticulousness - such as guardianship of the house - and has allowed the woman to function as an assistant.
Both a 'house' and a 'society' are in need of an administrator, and the reins of administration should eventually end up in the hands of one person or else it would result in contest, chaos and confusion.
Under these circumstances, who is better suited for the task - a man or a woman?  Impartial and unbiased computations reveal that the structural state of man demands that the administration and management of the family should be placed upon the man while the woman should act as his assistant.

There exists no difference between a man and a woman in this regard; the doors of success and prosperity lay equally open for both of them, just as we read in the Qur`an:
{ بَعْضُکُمْ مِنْ بَعْضٍ }
“All are from one species and one society.”

And a links between father and his daughter is, for a man who bring his daughter to the right path of Islam, let her grow up, teach them about Islam and let her marry with a good guy, he will granted Paradise by Allah S.W.T –Qur’an

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